On the elitism front, I think it's something we should probably be aware of and try to avoid as much as possible. I don't just mean behaving in an elitist way, but also appearances. Quite a few knightly Orders have sprung up over the years, and some of them did fall into the elitism trap.
Over on Chivalry-Now, there's been talk off and on about creating an Order, and people have raised similar concerns. Some people don't want to join them because, in their mind, an Order is elitist by definition. I don't think it's a fair assessment, personally, since any group/club will have to have rules concerning membership, otherwise it's not a group/club at all. At some point you have to have a constraint. For instance, if someone wanted to make a battered women's support group, they probably only want people joining who are, or know, a woman in that state. Not a bunch of drunk guys looking to kick their addiction. There are other groups for that.
But there are real cases of elitism out there for sure. It's since been taken down (their whole website is gone actually), but there used to be a thread over on the Knights of the Green Cross forum where they openly chided other groups for being open to all faiths. To them, if it's not founded directly in Christianity, then it's not truly chivalry or knightly. They were outright rude and dismissive to someone who was posting there, just looking to start a group and was asking around about knightly organizations in general.
But that's why I think it's good that we worked on making this group "flat" and not overburdened with rules and so on. There's really no gatekeeper as to who can participate, by design, except to find existing members to sponsor or knight you. If you can't get 2 or 3 members to like you, why would you want to join anyway? So I don't see this as an elitist mechanism that's meant to keep people out.