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Life. (be prepared for reading)
Leganoth:
--- Quote from: Sir Ulrich on 2012-04-01, 04:09:50 ---I found my GF's IRL facebook and she's been online recently on it. I am debating on confronting her by messaging her there and asking her why she hasnt been online in a whole month. It's really eating at me though, I feel like if I confront her she's gonna get mad at me for "stalking her".
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Who cares if she gets mad, in my opinion shes in no position to be mad, she didnt log onto anything to chat with you when she would so i would confront her, but thats just how i am i guess
Sir Brian:
--- Quote from: Leganoth on 2012-04-01, 04:55:50 ---
--- Quote from: Sir Ulrich on 2012-04-01, 04:09:50 ---I found my GF's IRL facebook and she's been online recently on it. I am debating on confronting her by messaging her there and asking her why she hasnt been online in a whole month. It's really eating at me though, I feel like if I confront her she's gonna get mad at me for "stalking her".
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Who cares if she gets mad, in my opinion shes in no position to be mad, she didnt log onto anything to chat with you when she would so i would confront her, but thats just how i am i guess
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Pardon me for injecting my thoughts on this but this exchange between you both reveals a troubling mentality that is inherent with younger generations. I am no expert in the area of love, as far as men are concerned there really are none! ;)
However I get the strong perception that both of you gentlemen seem to be under the false impression that your respective ladies "owe" you something. A relationship of true love is a give and take in equal portions. Giving freely what the other wants and needs and taking as it comes what you desire and need from the other. It is when there is a disparity of this give and take that conflict occurs in which one feels taken for granted, slighted or not given what they perceive as their just due. Yet if you could read the other's mind you might be surprised that they have been feeling the same over something you were responsible for but was oblivious to and so withheld what you wanted or needed. - Ah and I am not referring to just sex (that is a result of a more severe symptom of discontent). ;)
Understand Leganoth and Sir Ulrich that until you have won a lady's heart completely you are not owed anything from them. When you have won a lady's heart completely you are then only entitled to have first and for the most part exclusive rights to keep wooing her. A lady's love for you is not an endless supply but a source that you replenish by the love, tenderness, respect, attention, generosity and devotion you provide. You don't curse and demand water from a well in the middle of a desert after a long drought. ;)
Thorsteinn:
Well said!
Sir Wolf:
huzzah Sir Brian and all that mushy stuff heheheheh
SirNathanQ:
Very well put Sir Brian.
Seriously, the strongest material that you can build a relationship on is trust. Trust her, don't demand reasons for not going on to Facebook (C'mon guys, it's freaking FACEBOOK!!!) or not messaging and drooling over you every minute of the day. In a relationship, you are entitled to nothing. NOTHING. Give of your Honor, Love, Respect, Chivalry, and Trust to her, and ask for nothing in return. If she truly has feeling for or loves you then she will freely, and without asking give all of those back many times over.
Guys, seriously remember, it's damn Facebook. Confrontations based around something as silly as time logged on a website are just mean, petty and paranoid.
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