Life. (be prepared for reading)

[Ian]

Hey if you're wearing armor, you're also wearing a big ice-breaker / talking point!

[Sir Edward]

Hey if you're wearing armor, you're also wearing a big ice-breaker / talking point!

Definitely true! My best advice is to be calm and cool, and most of all be yourself. If you're trying too hard, you come off as desperate. Be friendly, polite, and sincere, and use the armor or garb as an opportunity to strike up a conversation. Girls love a man in armor!

[Sir William]

And remember...chics do dig armor.  I get approached all the time for pictures- like these.



And my wife is a huge fan of me in armor.  lol


One thing to keep in mind, if you appear to be enjoying yourself, they will feel you to be more approachable.  If you catch them looking but not making their way toward you, you go to them.  Strike up a conversation- doesn't matter what its about...talk will turn to other subjects, it always does when two people share an interest.

[Sir Brian]

You could also purchase a flower and present it to a lady with the compliment of paying homage to the fairest of the faire. 

[Thorsteinn]

It must be awful to be you Sir William. Just awful.




 

[Sir William]

Ivan, it can be trying at times...it can be trying.  My wife helps out a lot with that though...like having my own personal cheer leader.  She keeps me out of the dumps where I'm wont to go at times if I'm unsupervised.

That same day, three of us were approached by an eager young lady who wished to take a pic with all of us...I say she was fairest (and boldest) of them all!

[Sir James A]

went to the renn faire saturday and sunday, saw ALOT of...let me put this appropriately, attractive, girls (lol), some seemed interested in me from what i was noticing, BUT in the end, im gonna put this bluntly, i bitched out and didnt talk to them haha. Any tips on what i could do?

P.S.
will upload/post photos when i go this saturday again

It's a simple answer, but just "talk". You may hit it off, you may not; if nothing else, you get the fun (and experience) of talking with attractive ladies.

[Sir Edward]

And I should point out, at the renfaires, the barrier to flirting is often a lot lower. It's a great opportunity to woo the young ladies relatively safely, and just have fun with it.

[Sir Ulrich]

I have zero luck with women. Partly has to do with me being part of a subculture that has few if ANY women, other half may be because I am a shy clueless person when it comes to "mating rituals". I never really had any women approach me at medieval faires either. Then again my outfit was an average footsoldier which is far from "noble". Also didnt have anyone approach me at wicked faire except this creepy furry girl which really was awkward. First time there was magical second time sucked actually. In all honesty it may be because I am very picky with women, as I am very picky with just about everything. Been that way my whole life practically....

[Sir Edward]

Yeah, I understand that pretty well. Being picky and having standards isn't a bad thing, but something I had to learn was how to re-order my priorities. Some of the things you think are important at first end up not being such a big deal, and others are more important than you realize.

But in terms of the renfaire, I'm finding that the armor can indeed be a chick-magnet, but it requires being noticeable, and some of it still comes from your own attitude. If I stand tall and straight, trying to put on my best "photo pose", it attracts more cameras and more comments from the ladies. I don't get a huge amount of them, mind you, but it happens here and there. Conversely, when I'm not in the mood for photos, the cameras are nowhere to be seen (for the most part). It's a subtle shift in how I'm carrying myself, and whether I look like I'm in a hurry to get somewhere.

Body language makes an enormous difference.

And helmets make a difference too. Without one, I'm just some guy in armor, but with it, suddenly it's "OMG there's a knight!!"

[Sir Ulrich]

I have always been picky, I think I am at least decent looking and deserve someone whos just as decent looking. I dont want a girl whos not attractive to me, I mean what goods the girl if you dont find her attractive. For me clicking with me is one of the biggest deals along with being attractive to me.

Oh, well I got a kettle helm which people don't recognize as a knights helm. Time to invest in a great helm I suppose. I also aint the tallest and medieval shoes unlike my regular boots dont raise me up 2 inches from the ground and make me look 5 10. I think thats partially why no one notices me really. I did have a girl take a pic of me before at a medieval faire but I was too socially crippled at the moment to even socialize properly at the time. Red and black coloration and black maille armor along with a great helm would stand out and people would probably like my kit. I do think I'm a little too self critical though with my kits, whats good to most people may not be good to me. I'd prolly hunch over with all that heavy armor on thank god I invested in riveted maille and didnt settle for butted mild steel crap.

[SirNathanQ]

Just a note, don't be too snooty when choosing what women to talk to. Remember, girls like to see that you're not a D-bag who only acknowledges hot girls. Also, they often will introduce you to attractive friends 

[Sir James A]

I have always been picky, I think I am at least decent looking and deserve someone whos just as decent looking. I dont want a girl whos not attractive to me, I mean what goods the girl if you dont find her attractive. For me clicking with me is one of the biggest deals along with being attractive to me.

I hate to play the age card, but your tastes will probably change a bit over the next 5 years or so. No matter how attractive the girl is, if you don't get along well, it's not going to be pleasant. On the other hand, sometimes attraction comes from being able to 'be yourself' around somebody, and not just physical appearance. Of course, if you find somebody who meets both of those - don't wait forever!

I do think I'm a little too self critical though with my kits, whats good to most people may not be good to me.

I know exactly what you mean, I am (generally) my own worst critic and I'm OCD with things that most people don't care much about. Like with my mail, I ruled out several options just based on the fact the same size and material isn't available for chausses, hauberk, fauld, voiders, and coif. It's even historical to have mail that doesn't match, but I still had to go with "all of it needs to look the same!", for some reason.

I have a hard time accepting compliments, and am in the habit of what often is basically someone saying "Hey, I like your armor" and I start on some rant like "Thanks, yeah, I think the legs are sitting a little funny, I need to get some better footwear, I'd really like an Albion sword instead of this one, and the shoulders keep catching on my breastplate, but, I guess it looks fine to other people, I'm just not happy with it. So-and-so makes a great set of pauldrons, but they have a 6 month waiting list, and I ordered a set from whoever that hasn't made or shipped them for 8 months, so I doubt I'll ever see that armor or money back, and I don't want to pay somebody else for something that I should have from before, and I can't find anywhere that makes good period scabbards for a reasonable price, and I don't want to pay a lot of money for a scabbard I'd have to glue a sword into just to get it here into MDRF. Maybe I should just run around yelling 'lightning bolt! lightning bolt!' with some elf ears. It reminds me of D&D, and I used to like that when I was younger, but never really had much chance to play. Except for the PC games, but our computer was too slow to run it, and I was always fighting with my sister for who gets to use the computer too........................" at which point I realize I've gone off on a horrible tangent, stop at a completely random sentence, and kind of stare blankly as my brain starts going "WTH did you just do??"

Almost. Every. Time.

[Leganoth]

heres 1, at our faire we have about 4 girls dressed as faries, they dont talk, they walk really slow and weird. I find it errotic for some reason lol

[Leganoth]

my friend severin and I, i have a few more pictures just of me with that white farie though, posted the blue one also
The faries freak Severin out, he was scared to take a picture, so he stood 10 feet away and we got a pic of that lol