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Life. (be prepared for reading)
Ian:
--- Quote from: Sir Ulrich on 2012-05-20, 21:15:04 ---I was like overwhelmed, I liked it though I was a bit shy. They loved my sword too I showed them it and they were all wow this is a cool sword. Good ice breaker for talking to girls seriously. Just wish I could overcome my shyness and social awkwardness when talking to women. Not really used to talking to women in person, only online.
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It's always awkward to be out of your comfort zone, but the more you put yourself there, the less awkward it will be and the more comfortable you will become over time. The hardest part is forcing yourself outside of the social anxiety box. Don't put pressure on yourself. You don't have to impress the first girl you talk to, just keep talking to more girls and you'll eventually find one you click with. The conversation part becomes easier as you do it more. Keep using the armor for now as the icebreaker, and talk about what you like! In this case, talk about the armor itself, it's uses, medieval stuff... then once you get beyond that, you'll find yourself talking about completely unrelated things and you'll look back at the conversation and be like, holy $h%t! that didn't feel awkward at all!
Sir Brian:
Huzzah for you and good advice all around from your brethren Ulrich. Just remember to be gracious and courteous as that will help substantiate the impression the ladies are expecting you to fulfill as the embodiment of their expectations of a 'knight in shining armor'. ;)
SirNathanQ:
Amen Sir Brian, Amen!
Ian's got the right idea with this. That's stellar advice to use when you need a "plan" to stick to when talking to women.
Congrats Ulrich, keep it up. Really, practice makes perfect. The more ladies you talk to, the better you'll be at it (and also the more you will get to know and meet) ;)
Sir Edward:
Yep, I agree.
This is all general advice of course, not aimed at any particular one of you guys. But something I'd like to point out also is to keep in mind that when you're young and "on the prowl", it's natural to go out with different girls and take some time getting to know yourself as well as them. So don't take it harshly if it doesn't work out with any one particular girl. It's a learning opportunity, not just about your own wants/needs, but also about relationships in general, and about what sorts of personality traits you mesh with and which ones you don't. Sometimes it will surprise you.
I suggest being patient with it as best you can. If you can put aside any sense of immediacy, it'll serve you better. We're all pretty well trained by today's instant-gratification society that anything we desire should be nothing more than a mouse-click away. But relationships don't work that way. So don't let it get you down if things seem to move too slowly. If you can be calm, cool, and patient, it'll all pay off.
Sir William:
--- Quote from: Sir Edward on 2012-05-22, 13:29:26 ---
...keep in mind that when you're young and "on the prowl", it's natural to go out with different girls and take some time getting to know yourself as well as them. So don't take it harshly if it doesn't work out with any one particular girl. It's a learning opportunity, not just about your own wants/needs, but also about relationships in general, and about what sorts of personality traits you mesh with and which ones you don't. Sometimes it will surprise you.
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This. If you take nothing else away from all of our advice, keep this close to heart and you won't ever go too far wrong. Unless you pick a crazy, but that's another topic for another day. ;)
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