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Life. (be prepared for reading)
SirNathanQ:
--- Quote from: Sir Edward on 2012-04-03, 00:00:39 ---
Don't despair, it can be cured (mostly). I'm living proof. :)
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Leganoth, do not despair. No matter how deep depression strikes, one is always able to defeat it. I know what you're going through, and I know no matter how deep it gets you can always pull through. That's all I myself will say for myself. It's quite personal for me, you see.
And Sir Ulrich, Sir Brian is right on the money. One of the knightly tenants of chivalry is courtesy respect for women, even if they deserve it or not.
Sir Edward:
--- Quote from: Leganoth on 2012-04-03, 00:33:53 ---and when did you get over your depression and what was it for? (if i may ask)
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It's not a problem, I have no difficulty talking about it. It's an important part of what shaped me (the recovery that is), and I certainly want to share my experiences if it will help people.
Mine was a life-long thing that started as early as elementary school, but didn't really become a serious thing until high school, and continued to get worse in college. Poor self esteem, low confidence, leading to an inability to meet girls or do much outside of spending all my time on the computer.
After a few years of college, I finally got counseling and medication (the meds are not a cure, they only take the edge off while you deal with the real problem). The actual problem, for most people, is the way they think and react to things. A rare few people have a chemical imbalance, for whom the meds are a cure. But for most people, it's psychological. The problem is that once you've been feeling bad for a long time, you've trained your brain to work that way. So you have to train it to work the way you want, otherwise you're stuck in a rut. Your brain behaves like a set of muscles-- it will adapt to the way you use it.
Anyway, I was diagnosed as "mild major depression". It sounds like a contradiction. But remember, in medical terms, "mild" can mean "not currently killing you". :) I was never suicidal, and could still mostly go about may day without curling up and hiding away from the world, but it was still a form of "major depression".
Counseling and medication was about a year long for me. At that point I still had a ways to go, but got what I needed out of those things. I probably spent the next 5 years having to be conscious about my reactions and thoughts, constantly. It's hard to do that. It's like clawing your way out of a dark abyss. But it worked.
I've been depression-free for over a decade. Now granted, that doesn't mean I don't still have bad days, or can completely ignore that I once had it. But my thoughts don't automatically go down the wrong path anymore. It just requires constant vigilance until it becomes natural.
Leganoth:
I think that most of the struggle is not thinking about things that make you depressed or angry, you think about it and its like, no i need to stop but its hard to stop sometimes
Sir Brian:
It is difficult but not insurmountable. Keeping a proper perspective does take practice and being honest with yourself about the blessings you do have which is what everyone should strive to remember. Just because you are not as blessed as some people, you are certainly more blessed than a majority of people on this planet. ;)
Leganoth:
Very well said brian
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